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You Are Fat – News Anchor Responds To Hurtful Comments

Stacey Skrysak You Are Fat - A News Anchor's Response To A Viewer's Comment
Written by Stacey Skrysak

You Are Fat - A News Anchor's Response To A Viewer's Comment   www.herviewfromhome.comYou have to grow a thick skin when you work in the television news business. As we are reporting the news, thousands of people at home are watching, and those select few are judging us. Just this week, a viewer commented on a story I covered about a program teaching families how to cook healthy meals. Instead of remarking on the video, the viewer looked at my headshot and wrote, “She looks like she eats healthy,” adding an emoticon to show that he was being sarcastic.

While he didn’t flat out tell me, “you are fat,” he implied it, and it’s not the first time I’ve heard that. People get creative when they want to criticize, using words like “lumpy” to describe my figure. Instead of the word ugly, I’ve been told that I have “below average looks.”  The criticism is something I’ve become accustomed to over the years, but a decade ago, comments like these would have brought me to tears and I would have spent days fretting over the fact that people didn’t like me.

You Are Fat - A News Anchor's Response To A Viewer's Comment   www.herviewfromhome.comI get it. Criticism comes with the territory. Do I enjoy it? Not unless it’s constructive. But, it’s part of the business that I signed up for. These days, I’m older, wiser and jaded, so I know how to brush off the comments. I know that I am not a blonde supermodel and I know that I’m not considered “thin,” but I’m healthy, and that’s what matters. I will never be a size 2, but I don’t think there is anything wrong with my size 8 figure. Even between working, being a mom and blogging, I still find time to cook nutritious meals and work out. Sometimes I wonder how I get it all done!

It’s been a few years since I have received a mean body image comment. As I read the negative feedback, my heart sank. Not because of the mean words, but because of what the future holds. I thought of my daughter, Peyton, an innocent toddler who thinks the world of me. I didn’t grow up with the internet at my fingertips, yet that is all my daughter will know. People can easily hide behind their computer screen and throw out hurtful words, all while staying anonymous. And to be honest, it scares me.

You Are Fat - A News Anchor's Response To A Viewer's Comment   www.herviewfromhome.comSo how do I make sure Peyton grows up full of confidence? I simply show her. By loving myself and every curve and dent, I’m showing her self-confidence. In the past 5 years, I’ve endured several surgeries, carried triplets, and recovered after nearly dying following the birth of my children. I’d say my body is pretty amazing! It may not be perfect, but I’m comfortable in my own skin and I want my daughter to see that. Every morning as we brush our teeth, I hold Peyton in front of the mirror. We look at our reflections and Peyton smiles as I tell her she’s beautiful. It’s never too early to start teaching our children to love themselves.

It’s taken me years to grow into the person I’ve become and I’m proud of how I have evolved. As for that nasty comment? A simple phrase from my childhood comes to mind: Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me.


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About the author

Stacey Skrysak

Stacey Skrysak may not be a native of Nebraska, but she called it home for many years. You may recognize her from her days as a morning and noon anchor on NTV in Kearney. She liked Nebraska so much, she even married into a Cornhusker family! These days, Stacey lives in Springfield, Illinois where she is a news anchor for WICS-TV. Stacey and her husband are parents to Peyton, their surviving triplet, who was born more than 17 weeks premature. Abigail and Parker are their triplet angels watching from above. Through her heartbreaking experience, Stacey has become a voice for dealing with grief, infertility and life with a micro-premie. Her triplets have touched thousands of lives around the world, thanks to Stacey's blog "Perfectly Peyton". Stacey looks forward to sharing the trials and tribulations of balancing work and home life, all with a little humor thrown in.

  • Trish Eklund

    You’re beautiful, Stacey. I’m so glad you wrote about it instead of just holding it in for the sake of your daughter, and you are exactly right, it’s about the future. Our children look to our example as guidance, not only what we say but our actions. It seems to me, your actions speak volumes higher than his. Your daughter should be proud. 🙂

  • Michelle Sue Wheeler-Manley

    Stacey i also im a size 8 we are not FAT and YOU are beautiful blonde gorgeous face and great shape i look up to you i have jaded body image due to my parent in fact ive said many times i wish i were your size nit to know i am but seriously i see you and think wow shes beautiful smart and has many blessings so dont let anyone tell you different YOU are GODS princess always remeber our Father is the LORD and HE makes perfection big HUGS

  • Stacey Gannett

    Hey Stacey! It is so sad that these are the things that you have to face, despite being in the business of tv, it just should not happen. You are indeed beautiful, inside and out, and that shows perfectly as you share that beauty with your beautiful Peyton! Healthy, happy, and loved are really the only important things in life. Wishing you all the best!

  • Patricia Woolums Thomas

    Congratulations Stacy for standing up to the bullies, this makes them feel all powerful, but we know who is really all powerful, The Lord Our God, He made like we are and like the book I am about to read “Didn’t My Skin Used to Fit?”, I am 74 and that is my delima now! I filled it up and now it is sagging, nothing is perfect, but Jesus loves me as I am, and you too!!

  • Adrienne Jones

    Someone needs to get his eyeballs checked. “Below average” uhhh…I think it’s unquestionable that you are very pretty regardless of your body size. Look at Melissa McCarthy. She is much bigger than you but she is beautiful and infectious. It takes a lot guts for anyone to present themselves on television every day. Whether you feel beautiful or are having a “fat day” you still have to put yourself out there. Keep shining.

  • Damon Hynes

    You’re too much of a lady to do this, but I’m not so i will: Your ‘viewer’ can shove it up his alimentary canal, sideways.

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