Grief Journal

Don’t Forget Our Children

Don't Forget Our Children www.herviewfromhome.com
Written by John Polo

Don’t forget our children. 

As the days pass by. 

Don’t forget our children.

Those that had a daddy, or a mommy, die.

Don’t forget our children.

As you go on with your day to day routine.

Don’t forget our children.

Truly profound loss, they have seen.

Don’t forget our children.

They deserve better than to wonder where everyone went.

Don’t forget our children.

Love and support for them is so critical, when received, it sometimes feels Heaven sent. 

Don’t forget our children.

Just because they wear a smile.

Don’t forget our children.

If you think they are ‘Just fine’, you may be the one who is in denial.

Don’t forget our children.

The pain is forever there.

Don’t forget our children.

The little girl who quietly wishes her mommy could help her with her hair.

Don’t forget our children.

The small boy who wishes his dad was around to help him with his favorite sport.

Don’t forget our children.

They don’t deserve to feel intense pain, of this sort.

Don’t forget our children.

Just because you don’t see the tears.

Don’t forget our children.

You can’t imagine our profoundly deep, inner fears.

Don’t forget our children.

The ones who cry out at night.

Don’t forget our children.

“I miss my mom.”

Such a cruel and heartbreaking sight.

Don’t forget our children.

“Why did daddy have to die?”

Try explaining to a young child, why they had to say goodbye.

Don’t forget our children.

It hurts them, and thus it hurts us too.

Don’t forget our children.

They need us, but they could really benefit from you.

Don’t forget our children.

Moments and days in which they feel that haunting pain.

Don’t forget our children.

With your love and presence, they could truly gain.

Don’t forget our children.

Muffins with Mom and Donuts with Dad.

Don’t forget our children.

Each new occasion brings with it a special type of sad.

Don’t forget our children.

Mother’s Day and Father’s Day too.

Don’t forget our children.

The absence of those we lost, if you only knew.

Don’t forget our children.

At a young age, they had a parent die.

Don’t forget our children.

Their souls cry.

Don’t forget our children.

The reality is though, that even if you do, it will be ok.

We’ll put on our capes.

And be their lone heroes. 

Again today.

Originally published on the author’s blog.

About the author

John Polo

John Polo is a widower and step dad.

He is also an author, blogger and speaker.

John met the love of his life, Michelle, at a young age, and the two dated for a year in High School.  After eight years apart the two reunited and planned to spend their life together, alongside Michelle’s amazing daughter.  Two years after their reunion Michelle was diagnosed with an extremely rare and aggressive cancer.  So rare in fact, that the two were told when you consider what type of cancer it was, and where it developed, there is only one case a year in the world of what Michelle had. 

Michelle fought valiantly for two and a half years before taking her last breath on January 22, 2016.

It was no easy feat, but while Michelle was in hospice John had a moment that would forever change him.  He was able to rid himself of the bitter, and find his better.

John is currently a contributor to a handful of blogs and websites; including Good Men Project, Hope for Widows, The Grief Toolbox and The Mighty.

He also serves on the Hope for Widows Advisory Board, is a speaker for the National Cancer Survivor’s Day Foundation and is a member of the International Association of Professional Writers & Editors.

John has co-authored a journal entitled ‘Hurt to Healing, The Journal from Life to the Afterlife’ and his first book, entitled ‘Widowed: Rants, Raves and Randoms’ will be released on November 11th, 2017.

John’s true passions are writing and speaking about love, loss and hope as he tries to help others honor their pain and see that a hopeful tomorrow can indeed exist.

You can find John’s blog at www.betternotbitterwidower.com and on Facebook