Maybe this is your first Christmas since you’ve lost a parent.
Maybe someone close to you is sick, dying or struggling with substance abuse. Maybe you’ve lost a child, a spouse, or a sibling. Maybe you’ve lost your job.
Whatever the reason, you are struggling to celebrate this season, while it feels like the rest of civilization is throwing a great big party.
The gifts and desserts and decorations are just temporary distractions from your heartache–surface attempts at normalcy.
It’s all downright exhausting, putting on a smile, pretending to be okay while you’re hurting.
If your heart is broken this Christmas, I get it.
I see you.
And I’m giving you a pass.
It is OK to say, “I’m not OK. I’m grieving.”
It is OK to give yourself time and space and to decline invitations and obligations, even for things you do every year.
It is OK, even at Christmas.
You won’t say no forever. Eventually, you will come up for air, and celebrating will be easier.
You will remember your joy. In time.
You will survive this season.
You are allowed, required even, to forget the frivolous holiday festivities and turn your cares over to the Christ child, who never intended for the celebration of his birth to feel like a burden.
Come to me, all who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. – Matthew 11:28 ESV
He will always give you rest.
This post originally appeared on Lauren Flake / Love of Dixie
Grief is messy and can feel so lonely. It’s OK That You’re Not OK is a great read for anyone who is grieving or supporting a loved one through grief. Don’t have time to read? You can listen here, on Audible.
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