Hey you! Yes, you. Right there. No, not behind you, not next to you. You!

I saw what you did there. Your husband told you that you were beautiful this morning, and you grumbled under your breath about the 10 pounds you need to lose. 

And when your mother-in-law mentioned how polite your kids are, you fussed about how you wish they said “thank you” to you like they do to her.

That time your boss gushed about how you are always on top of things and one of the most responsible employees she has, and you passed it off as being raised right.

No matter the compliment, you deflect it.

Maybe you were taught humility, and you’re just trying to be humble. Or maybe you truly believe you aren’t worthy of these kind words; ya know, I suspect that’s the case. It sounds like you need a reminder of just how spectacular you are.

You are lovely. Perhaps you squinted in the mirror this morning at some new wrinkles, or possibly it was those cellulite dimples that got your attention. Can I remind you that we all have those, like every last one of us? But did you notice the spark in your eye when you look at your husband? When he sees that, you’re the most stunning woman he could imagine. Your husband compliments you because you deserve it, you still make his heart flutter.

You are worthy. Soak in that compliment with gratitude! You have so much going for you. Whether you’re an organizational phenome, a creative genius, have the baby bounce and sway down pat, or have mastered the ultimate pot roast, there are many things that you rock out every day without blinking

You are treasured. Whether you are a hardworking homemaker or have a job outside the home, your work is important, valuable, and good. When people notice how phenomenal you are, it’s not bragging to acknowledge it– you have earned it baby!

You are simply marvelous! Even if you’re a day or three overdue for your shower, wearing your husband’s baggy sweatpants, or have put in your fourth 12-hour shift in a row and feel like dog meat, you are fearfully and wonderfully made, and absolutely glorious.

So stop it. Today. Right now. Stop deflecting the kind words. When someone mentions how incredible you are, just pause, drink it in, and accept the compliment doggone compliment. If you can’t do it for you, then do it with the intention of paying it forward. Tuck that baby right in your front pocket and pass it out at your earliest opportunity. It might feel yucky the first time, and maybe even the 101st time, but you’ll get used to it. And wouldn’t it be something if you actually learn to believe what others observe about you?

Alethea Mshar

Alethea Mshar is a mother of four children; an adult child who passed away of a drug overdose, one typical daughter and two sons who have Down syndrome, one of whom has autism spectrum disorder and complex medical needs. She has written "What Can I Do To Help", a guide to stepping into the gap when someone you know has a child diagnosed with cancer, which is available on Amazon, and is publishing a memoir titled, "Hope Deferred". She can be found on Twitter as leemshar, and blogs for The Mighty HuffPost as Alethea Mshar, as well as her own blog, Ben's Writing Running Mom on https://benswritingrunningmom.wordpress.com/. She is also on Facebook as Alethea Mshar, The Writing, Running Mom.