No matter what we do or where we live, whether we are married or single, have children or not, we spend most of our days on the go. 

Knowing this, we’ve also come to realize that self care is important for ourselves and those around us. Often, we think of self-care in terms of going to a yoga class or having an uninterrupted spa day. Unfortunately, not everyone has the time or means to make these things happen

So where do we begin? By taking a few moments each day to check-in with ourselves for self-care.

We check in with bosses, spouses, teachers, kids but do we ever make the time to close our eyes and say, OK, self, what do we need?

Until it becomes routine, put “self-care” in your daily planner so you know it has to be done. Maybe it’s in the moments before you get out of bed or after your turn the light out each night. Regardless, make time to ask yourself some eye-opening and potentially life-changing questions.

Here are 25 self care questions to ask yourself every day:

  1. How do I feel at this moment?
  2. What do I crave in life?
  3. What makes me happiest?
  4. What are the positives in my life?
  5. What am I thankful for?
  6. What brought me joy today? This week? This month?
  7. What am I putting off?
  8. What is making me feel down?
  9. What do I love about me?
  10. Who makes me feel my best?
  11. What is my mantra?
  12. Do I follow the advice I give to others?
  13. When something (recently) didn’t go my way, what did I learn?
  14. If I had time, what would I do?
  15. If I had money, what would I do?
  16. What new activities do I want to try?
  17. Where have I never been that I’m dying to go?
  18. What scares me? How does it hold me back?
  19. Do the people around me make me feel energized?
  20. When is the last time I gave back?
  21. Who or what inspires me?
  22. What do I need to heal?
  23. Is there negativity I can cut out of my life?
  24. Am I making time to be social?
  25. Do I have enough quiet time?

While you may not ask yourself every single one of these questions every single day, I do recommend keeping a gratitude journal. As a mom of two (an 8-year-old with Type 1 Diabetes and a 4-month-old), I’ve found it really helps keep me on track. I keep the journal by my bed and each night, I record 10 things that make me feel grateful. Most nights, I also go back and read at least a few other entries so I can feel the abundance and positivity in my life.

So go on and feel what it feels like to be empowered by your own discoveries!

Go ahead, mama, take that break before you break.

Erinne Magee

Erinne is a Maine-based Mom and writer. Her work has appeared in publications like: New York Magazine, Teen Vogue, The Washington Post, Redbook, USA Today, Prevention Magazine, Good Housekeeping, Men's Journal and more. For more, visit: