A night (or day) out WITHOUT her kids…

Written by Leslie Means

**This post is written by co-founder, Leslie Means.

My first daughter, Ella was born on August 3, 2008.  My second daughter, Gracie was born on July 2, 2010.

Ella will turn 4 this summer, and I’ve never left her side (or Gracie’s) for more than 12 hours. 

I know – it’s time to cut the cord Leslie. 


This summer, Kyle is going on his first vacation (without me!!) for a few days with a good friend.  I’m happy for him – really.  I know it’s important to do those things.  It’s just…well, I haven’t quite made it there.  I’m taking baby steps as I know time away with friends is important. 

Baby steps.

Last Saturday I got one step closer to cutting the cord.   My sister’s and mom took our annual “flower/gardening tour” in Central Nebraska.  (Look for that post this Saturday!!)  While it’s a day to gather produce and beautiful flowers for our gardens ~ for me it’s mostly about making memories.

For our lunch break, we stopped at El Toro in Grand Island.  I developed my love of Mexican food when Kyle and I lived in Houston for a stint and this authentic restaurant did not disappoint!

I ordered a Quesadilla Fajita.  Other menus on our table included this glorious taco salad (I love the shell!)

fantastic sopapillas..

and, of course, a drink to celebrate Cinco de Mayo with the fam!

I know these trips are important and I’m doing my best to start scheduling a few more.  To my long lost friends ~ I’ll find you again someday!! Let’s meet up in Vegas once these “baby steps” have turned into leaps – shall we?!  🙂

El Toro ~ 3425 State Street

Grand Island, NE 68803  (308) 381-2333 ‎

P.S. – There are also numerous El Potrero Mexican Restaurants in the area.  Same restaurant – different name.  Check them out!!

P.P.S. – To other mom’s – do you go out with your friends?  Tell me I’m not the only one who has a hard time leaving them to go out? 

P.P.P.S. – Our flower trip ended sooner than I expected.  I did want to check out a couple wineries in the area but time ran out.  Nebraska has AMAZING wineries throughout the state.  Yes, Nebraska.  Check them out for yourself at www.nebraskawines.com




About the author

Leslie Means

Leslie is the co-founder and owner of Her View From Home.com. She is also a former news anchor, published children’s book author, weekly columnist, and has several published short stories as well.

She is married to a very patient man. Together they have two pretty fantastic little girls ages 8 and 6 and one little dude born March 2017!

When she’s not sharing too much personal information online and in the newspaper – you’ll find Leslie somewhere in Nebraska hanging out with family and friends. There’s also a 75% chance at any given time, you’ll spot her in the aisles at Target.


  • I do go out with my friends and my husband and I have taken a few trips with out the kiddos. I find these breaks to be so hard yet so rewarding to get some time to reconnect with my husband and friends. I always look so forward to my night’s out and trips; then miss my kids the second I have to leave.

    • I KNOW! I’m proud of myself though – a much needed date night with Kyle tomorrow night – and a girls night out next week is planned as well. Haven’t went out that much in years!! 😉 I’d say it’s about time.

  • I cannot relate Leslie. I have never had a problem leaving my kids with sitters or grandparents for a night out or a vacation. When they were young, they would often go to Omaha to stay with my parents all by themselves. Of course, they would come home spoiled rotten! I even let my parents drive across the country with my oldest son when he was just one. Ok, that ended up a disaster because on day two of their drive, I couldn’t reach them by cell phone. 8 hours later, I was hysterical! After I finally made contact and chewed them out, I booked a flight and met them in Florida for a week. Jack flew home with me. Aside from that one time, even though I missed them while away, I always knew they were in good hands, bonding and making memories all their own. And my kids loved their babysitters and would ask for them to come over. Charlie was even the ring bearer in our babysitters wedding.

    You need an adult vacation Leslie!!

    • LOL – I KNOW Sanae! I just turned down a 6 day trip to Spokane, Washington (cross country drive) with my two oldest sisters – mostly because I couldn’t imagine being away from them for 6 days. 6 DAYS!! I think – no I know I just feel so guilty as I’m either working or when I am at home with them – I’m probably on the computer working on this site or writing. 😉 Kyle’s taking a vacation this summer without me. I’ll get there. Eventually. I’m going out next week – does that count?!?!

  • When my babies were little, I had a really hard time leaving them. Now, I’m okay with it. I go away with my husband at least once or twice a year for his work conferences. I’m okay the first two or three days, but after that I start to get anxious for home. Hubby and I go out on a date at least once a month, and I have a girls’ night out at least once a month, too. I have slowly worked up to all this, but it’s so good for my happiness and sanity. Good for the little ones, too!

  • I understand completely! But don’t let it continue too long…I have 2 children, youngest 4 and oldest 10 and I could count maybe 4-5 times in the past year that my husband and I have gone out for a date.
    It’s not that I don’t want or need to go out with friends or get away for a weekend with my husband… it is just so hard to leave my kids! I work full time outside of the home and spend weekends and evenings catching up on what I feel I have missed.
    We also do not have any family close by and I don’t have a regular babysitter that I would feel confident leaving them with overnight.
    UGH…the guilt I inflict on myself- I need a good babysitter and a get away!

    • Thanks Jami. I know – guilt is a nasty thing. I do that to myself and can TOTALLY relate to the working outside the home guilt as well. I’m learning, though – that it has been harder on me than it has my girls. They are very independent and able to find things to entertain themselves – which is good as I know they can’t be attached to me at all times. We finally have a couple babysitters that we totally trust – but it’s taken us a while. I’m finally going out tonight with Kyle and having a girls night next week! Can’t believe it – but I’m excited! I’m always going to be there for my girls – but I have to make sure I stay “sain” so I can be the best mom/wife/friend/sister/employee I can be. I get that now – it’s just taking me a bit. 😉

  • I have felt guilty leaving my kids just to go out for supper with my husband especially when you work full time and only get to see them for a few hours in the evening. Please take every chance you get to enjoy your kids cause they do grow up soo terribly fast. I know!!!! I know its frustrating but they are only little once. It is good to get away for an evening every once and a while but they are YOUR kids and need mom and dad too!!! Its good to have big peope time once and a while buts its really important to have little kid time too!!!

  • I hear ya’ loud and clear Leslie. Until my child was three, she was never out of my sight. We have gradually eased into overnight stays with grandparents and we are planning a week stay with them this summer. (A whole week – seven days and six nights!) I know I will enjoy the time for myself but I will also miss her. She is my one and only and I became a mom later than some and thoroughly enjoy just being a mom. It is the most important job in the world to me and time keeps flying by. I will never regret vacations and evenings out passed up because I love being a mom!

  • My oldest is going to be 9 in just a few months and it still kills me to be away from him during the school day. I have never been away from any of my five kids overnight except to give them a new sibling, and the very few times we have had someone sit with them it has been for a few hours, max. The HVFH retreat was the longest I have been away from my kids in YEARS!!! :-O