Dear husband,

I’m sorry for not appreciating you.

I’m sorry I don’t always hug you when you come home.

I’m sorry I don’t give you the time you need.

I’m sorry I don’t make you dinner every night.

I’m sorry the bedroom is a mess.

I’m sorry I’m so exhausted.

I’m sorry I don’t have the energy to talk.

I’m sorry I didn’t ask how your day was.

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I’m sorry I don’t always see the things you do right.

I’m sorry for nagging.

I’m sorry I don’t always feel “sexy.”

I’m sorry for making you feel like I don’t care.

I’m sorry for not being myself lately.

I’m trying my hardest.

I’m trying to be a good wife.

I’m trying to be a good mom.

I’m trying to balance a million things.

I’m trying to do this hard life with a smile.

I’m trying not to break down.

I’m trying to love my new body.

I’m trying to please everyone.

I’m trying to be enough.

I’m trying.

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Just remember that . . .

I see you.

I acknowledge you.

I appreciate you.

I adore you.

I love you. So, so much.

Marriage is hard. Marriage is even harder with kids. Sometimes we as moms tend to put the husband on the back burner. Not saying it’s right and we don’t mean to. It’s just that we are constantly needed all throughout the day and when he comes home in the evening, we just need a little bit of time to ourselves. We don’t want to be “needed” right now. And we forget that he needs us, too.

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To all the husbands who feel left out or forgotten or replaced by that baby, we’re sorry and we are trying our hardest. Be patient with us. We love you and couldn’t do this life without you.

And to the moms who are struggling internally, trying to balance wife life and mom life, you’re not alone. We’ve all been there and it WILL get better. I see you, mama. 

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My name is Abigail and I am from Prescott, Arizona. I am a wife and a mother of three. I am a stay at home mom and instagram connect creator with an emphasis on motherhood and the trials that go along with it and body positivity. My goal is to encourage moms by being real and relative and helping to bridge the gap between the photoshopped and staged Instagram mom photos and real life struggles.